Psalm 37: 4-5, Mathew 7:7.
Many Christians erroneously leave a lot to God including what they should handle. It is not that we are on our own and as such should handle a lot more, it is just that there is our part to play and there is God’s part to play; it is a partnership. God wants us to work with him not leave all the work to him; He wants you taking responsibility. Lending credence to this is the fact that God created us but he did not make us puppets, he gave us will and He expects us to use it. Your will enables you make decisions and to stand by them. Several factors are important when it comes to the will of man; personality, behaviors, mindset, paradigms among others. This does not remove the fact that God has an intension for our will and His intention is that it is aligned with His for our own good because God’s will is good and perfect; “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God” (Romans 12:2). This ensures that we work with God actively not passively.
Know what you want. “Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass” (Psalm 37: 4-5). Notice that God will grant you the desires of “Your own heart” and you should commit “your own way” to God. See that? It starts with you and God takes it up from there, there is no coming empty handed. God has put enough in you already, He is only asking that you look inwards and bring back to him what you already have so he can work with you on that. This is not to say that we should become autocratic with our desires, we as Christians need to work a lot with the Holy Spirit and God’s word to ensure our desires are God’s will attuned.
Plan. Unfortunately a lot of Christians are rather reactive instead of proactive, passive and do not plan or take it seriously. They confess that they are being lead of the Spirit and so excuse their passivity. This is anti-God’s word. Jesus promised to send His Spirit to tell us about the future so that we can be prepared for it before it comes. “Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come” (John 16:13). God never fails when He promises; the Holy Spirit is constantly leading us but the question is do we really act on it and plan in advance (Luke 14:28)? To further buttress this point, God is the number one planner. We should emulate him (Mathew 5:48). “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV)
Go for it. “Ask and keep on asking and it will be given to you; seek and keep on seeking and you will find; knock and keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you” (Mathew 7:7). God expects us to act after we have planned and to keep at it till we have what we want. God hates laziness and it should not be associated with His own Children. When you desire a thing, you should work towards it involving God all the way.
Finally, stop blaming. Don’t blame God, others or yourself when something goes wrong instead finds out what the problem is and take prompt action to resolve it.