Family is usually the first people that you come into contact with when you come into this world. You are put into your mom’s lovingly exhausted arms after being born and afterward your dad holds you close. Then you meet your siblings when you arrive home. Afterwards you’ll meet grandma and grandpa and aunts and uncles, cousins, distant cousins and the list goes on. Family teaches you the way of the world, your first friends are usually your siblings and your wisest council is usually your grandparents. Family plays a vital role in the development of our brains and social skills.
But what if you didn’t have such a perfectly loving family? What if you were raised by a single mom who had to work three jobs to put a roof over your head? Or what if you are an orphan and never knew what family means unless it was used in the same sentence as adoption? There is still family for you, your brothers and sisters in faith. The people alongside you worshipping the same God you do, praying for the same spirit and thanking the same Jesus for his salvation.
The Bible has many scriptures that speak of the role of family in our lives:
1. Proverbs 22:6 ESV
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
2. Exodus 20:12 ESV
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
3. Colossians 3:20 ESV
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
4. 1 Timothy 5:8 ESV
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
5. 1 Timothy 3:5 ESV
For if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?
6. Genesis 2:24 ESV
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
7. Psalm 128:3 ESV
Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table.
8. Joshua 24:15 ESV
And if it is evil in your eyes to serve the Lord, choose this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your fathers served in the region beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
9. Psalm 127:3-5 ESV
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
10. John 15:12-17 ESV
“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you. No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.
There are certain pitfalls when it comes to family and our love and attachment to our family members. The Bible tells us that, ““For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” (Ephesians 5:31) yet elsewhere the Bible commands us to “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12). The Bible sometimes seems contradictory and you feel like the one scripture is speaking against the other. However, this is not the case. Just because you leave your father and mother’s house does not mean you now dishonor them.
Whether we married someone new or are metaphorically still in our parents’ house, our first family is that of Father, Son and Spirit. Our relationship with the Father is made possible only by the sacrifice made by the Son. Our relationship with Father and Son is made possible by the Spirit who prompts us and tells us what the Father is doing, saying, seeing.
When you feel like you are alone, remember you have the creator of the universe as a Father.