How to Overcome Sexual Lust as a Christian
Sexual lust is something that many Christians struggle with and do not know where to get help. We live in a world that glorifies sex and lust, and companies use sensuality to advertise things like cooking oil. This is not to mention how hard it is to find a good movie that does not have sex and nudity. If you engaged in sex before you became a Christian, you may struggle with lust if you have not received the full deliverance from your former sexual sins. It is possible to overcome sexual lust as a Christian and live a pure life.
God never meant for us to experience sex before marriage because He knew it will defile us. You will find that some Christian couples think it is okay to have sex before marriage because they will head to the altar anyway. What many people do not understand is that sex is spiritual, and if experienced outside of marriage, it has spiritual consequences that can take years to deal with conclusively. If you are struggling with sexual lust as a Christian, the points below will show you how to overcome your challenge.
Pray for Yourself
Jesus said that you should pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The reason He gave was that the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak (Matthew 26:41). As a Christian, you are struggling because your spirit wants to walk away from sexual lust but your body is not cooperating. Prayer is the first step in overcoming lust. Ask God to help you overcome any lustful thoughts you have and to help you keep away from anything that will trigger them.
If you have had a sexual encounter then you need to repent. You may have stopped having sex but if you did not go before God in repentance you need to. When you engage in sex before marriage, you allow the spirits of sexual immorality and lust to attack you until you repent and cast them out. It is then that God can cleanse you from lustful thoughts, and restore purity to your spirit, soul, and body. Even if you had sex after accepting Christ, God is faithful and will forgive you.
Avoid Sexual Immorality
1 Thessalonians 4:3 says that it is God’s will that you should be sanctified and avoid sexual immorality. It sounds easier said than done but we have to make the effort to keep away from anything that is sexually immoral. This means avoiding sexually immoral conversations and gatherings where this is the norm. You will have to walk away from places that do not help you uphold your sexual moral values. If you are in a relationship with someone, avoid being alone together to avoid sexual temptation. With the help of God, you can overcome sexual lust because He has given you His Spirit to help you in your time of need. Look for content, books, music, and relationships that help you remain pure.
Keep Away from Seductive Friends
There are friends who will talk to you in a seductive manner, and when you are with them, lust begins to build up. The truth is that not everyone in church is willing to keep away from sexual sin and if you know such a person, you cannot build a friendship with them. You are to flee because it is only a matter of time before you give in to their seductive advances. You can be sure that such a person is not willing to live the godly way, and has not surrendered their sexuality to God. Joseph had to flee from Potiphar’s wife because he knew that she would force herself on him and his flesh would let him down (Genesis 39:12).
Get Rid of Sexual and Lustful Thoughts
You may not be having sex before marriage, but that will not stop you from having sexual and lustful thoughts. Lust begins in the heart before manifests physically. Jesus taught that a man looking at a woman lustfully means he has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Matthew 5:27-28). He was addressing infidelity, but the message applies to illicit sex before marriage. He went on to say that if your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out. If looking at a man or woman will bring lustful thoughts, look the other way and leave that place immediately. Get rid of the sexual and lustful thoughts by countering them with the Word of God that shows you how to overcome sexual immorality.
Avoid Movies that are Sexual
It is hard to find movies that do not have sex and nudity. The sad thing is that you can find a very good movie with a good and inspiring storyline but has scenes that evoke sexual lust in you through their many sexual scenes. The best you can do is to avoid them altogether and look for quality Christian movies. We have many Christian movies subscription sites that offer content that is godly. 2 Timothy 2:16 says that if you indulge in godless chatter, you become more ungodly. This applies to watching movies as well. The more ungodly movies you watch, the more you struggle to obey God. Get rid of movies that cause you to fall sexually.
It is possible to achieve sexual purity despite the sexual immorality we face each day. Others may ridicule you but the benefits of being sexually pure far outweigh the consequences of a single moment of sexual immorality. Guard your heart by not allowing anything that will cause you to stumble. Your Christian lifestyle is different from the one you had when you lived the worldly way. Life looks different because there are many things that you cannot continue to do as a Christian. You are walking a narrow path but you will make it with God’s help and guidance. Never take your eyes off God because He will give you His grace to overcome sexual lust so that you can live a life of sexual purity.