The Praise-Worthy Woman
‘Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.’ – Proverbs 31:30-31 NKJV.
Have you ever thought of the reason why every woman loves to be admired and praised by her loved ones, her colleagues at work, and her neighbors? The reason is quite simple: Every woman was created for God’s glory and praise, and destined to be a channel of (or a physical manifestation of) God’s tenderness and grace toward the rest of creation. Much like God created the man with distinct characteristics and for specific reasons, the same way He designed the woman to give expression to some of her Creator’s intrinsic characteristics.
After God had made the woman from Adam’s rib and presented her to him, the first thing Adam did was to admire and praise her (See Genesis 2:21-23). The first words Eve heard from Adam were words of admiration and affirmation, however he wasn’t praising [just] his wife’s sensual qualities or physical beauty, rather he was admiring the Creator’s glory, tenderness and His other attributes manifested in her. In the same way God presented Eve to Adam, the book of Proverbs 31 presents to us the virtues of a godly woman, from which we have extracted a few points for this post.
Four qualities of the praise-worthy woman from Proverbs 31
‘An excellent woman [one who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, and virtuous], who is he who can find her? Her value is more precious than jewels and her worth is far above rubies or pearls. The heart of her husband trusts in her [with secure confidence], And he will have no lack of gain. She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil all the days of her life. – Proverbs 31:10-12 AMP
A woman who would be admired and praised must be one who has gained the trust of her husband. She has proven to her husband at different times and in different ways that she is the best woman in the world specifically made for him by God. Trust – unlike love which should be given freely without condition – must be earned.
When a man trusts his wife, his admiration and appreciation for her grows each day. He knows his heart is in safe hands and he has a friend in his wife. Do you want to be a happy woman or a fulfilled wife? Build trust! This is God’s design for a strong marriage/home. He desires that couples would trust one another, comfort, and encourage each other. However, you do not have to wait to be married before you start developing a strong character that can be trusted.
‘She looks for wool and flax and works with willing hands in delight. She is like the merchant ships [abounding with treasure]; She brings her [household’s] food from far away. She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And assigns tasks to her maids. She considers a field before she buys or accepts it [expanding her business prudently]; With her profits she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard. She equips herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] And makes her arms strong. She sees that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out, but it burns continually through the night [she is prepared for whatever lies ahead]. Proverbs 31:13-18 AMP.
A diligent woman is more likely to succeed in life, in business or career, in her marriage and in raising up diligent and successful children than a slothful woman. Diligence is a treasure any day and any time, and whoever possesses it will find favor both with God and with men. It is a virtue that will always draw admiration from your husband and will help your children develop good work ethics. Besides, diligence is required if you want to keep experiencing growth and prosperity in your life, as it will help you to seize opportunities when they come!
It will bring your heart desires into reality and help you achieve – whether in marriage, ministry, or business – what other women are still daydreaming about.
‘A virtuous and excellent wife [worthy of honor] is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him [with her foolishness] is like rottenness in his bones.’ – Proverbs 12:4 AMP
There are lots of women who were all diligent in the Bible (and were praised and admired), but we are going to mention only two of them here.
‘Now while he was still speaking with them, Rachel came with her father’s sheep, for she was a shepherdess. Jacob loved Rachel, so he said. “I will serve you [as a hired workman] for seven years [in return] for [the privilege of marrying] Rachel your younger daughter.’ – Genesis 29:9,18 AMP.
Rachel had always been a diligent woman ever before she got married. She had developed this beautiful virtue while growing up in her younger days and this was what attracted Jacob and endeared her to his heart – and not just her physical beauty. A diligent woman will always command the admiration of her husband as Rachel commanded Jacob’s!
The virtues we develop and live by have a way of shaping our destiny, future, and outcome. Rachel’s virtue of diligence made her a choice-spouse for Jacob, so much that he was willing to serve her father for seven years so he could have her for a wife!
‘The woman conceived and gave birth to a son; and when she saw that he was [especially] beautiful and healthy, she hid him for three months [to protect him from the Egyptians]. Exodus 2:2 AMP
Jochebed’s diligence saved her baby Moses from untimely death and kept him for the fulfilment of his destiny. In order to preserve Moses’ life from Pharaoh’s order to kill every Jewish male child, she decided to put Moses’ out by the riverside, in an ark which she had built with her own hands. It ended up earning her a well-paid job taking care of her own son for Pharaoh’s daughter!
Diligence crowns a woman with honor, and makes her stand out among her friends, neighbors, and colleagues!
‘She opens her mouth in [skillful and godly] wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue [giving counsel and instruction].’ Proverbs 31:26 AMP.
A wise woman is a treasure to four: first, the Lord; second, her husband; third, her household; fourth, others. Your wisdom will distinguish you and give you the ability to provide wise counsel for those who are in any trouble. It will teach you how to build a joyful marriage, and how to run a healthy and fruitful home where God dwells.
‘The wise woman builds her house [on a foundation of godly precepts, and her household thrives], But the foolish one [who lacks spiritual insight] tears it down with her own hands [by ignoring godly principles].’ Proverbs 14:1 AMP.
God’s wisdom is a virtue that’s available to every woman (and every man, of course) who recognize their need for it, and you should seek it as the word of God tells you to (See James 1:5-8). Wisdom has a lot of fruits it produces in the life of its host such as kindness, generosity, prudence, prosperity, humility, peace etc. They are just too much to mention in this post that it will take me a whole book to spell them all out in great detail, but one thing you need to understand is that wisdom beautifies you in every way and is able to help you fulfill your potentials in bright colors.
- The fear of the Lord
‘Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord [reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised.’ – Proverbs 31:30 AMP.
This is probably the weightiest virtue listed in Proverbs 31. The fear of the Lord makes you tremble at His word but makes you fearless of the uncertainties of life. It compels you to stay true to the Lord and honor His word above all else, conforming yourself to the standards of heaven and not those of the earth. It helps you to stay pure in your heart and clean in your hands.
‘The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever.’ Psalms 19:9 AMP.
A woman who really fears the Lord has won His heart, and that is what you should aspire to achieve as God’s delightful woman. A godly woman who fears the Lord is a place of refuge for her children in the day of trouble, and will never be short of wise counsel for those who seek her for it in their time of need.
‘The fear of the Lord leads to life, So that one may sleep satisfied, untouched by evil.’ – Proverbs 19:23 AMP.