Some things to know in climbing up to the zenith of destiny
My son, hear the instruction of your father, and do not forsake the teaching of your mother. For they are a garland of grace on your head, and chains and ornaments [of gold] around your neck.’ – Proverbs 1:8 AMP.
Whatever we grow up to become is as a result of the instructions, education, and guidance we have received [and obeyed] from our parents. Personally, I believe that the family is more important than the government, as the success or failure of society largely depends on healthy families and not government policies. If people are well-taught and properly disciplined by their parents in the early days of their growing up, they would end up being responsible men and women who would build up society and make their environment a much safer and better place to live in.
God is the author of the family unit and has its best interests at heart. In many places in the word of God, we see verses here and there that talk about raising up children, children being trained in the way of the Lord, children honoring their parents, parents loving their children etc. God has set His standard in His word, and the sooner we learn them, practice them, and teach them to others, the more peaceful our lives will be.
Living by heaven’s standards guarantees present and future peace
‘Mark the blameless man [who is spiritually complete], and behold the upright [who walks in moral integrity]; There is a [good] future for the man of peace [because a life of honor blesses one’s descendants].’ – Psalm 37:37 AMP.
It is God’s intention that parents – and not the schools or the government – would raise their own children up to become mature sons and daughters who understand the way of heaven and apply its godly principles and virtues in their lives. And I’m certain you understand that heaven is not a place where things are done haphazardly or in a chaotic way – that is the way of hell. Heaven is a place of order, stemming from total submission to the royal authority and power of its King!
God’s design places the father as the head of his family, and entrusts him with the responsibility of instructing his children in the right way; while it places the mother as the support pillar of the home, who teaches her children all that they need to have a peaceful and beautiful life like hers!
Fathers – the general of the family-army
‘For I have known (chosen, acknowledged) him [as My own], so that he may teach and command his children and [the sons of] his household after him to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is righteous and just.’ – Genesis 18:19 AMP.
God’s testimony of Abraham reveals to us that every man is responsible for instructing his children in the way of the Lord. Most men leave this responsibility to school teachers, the entertainment world, or to their pastors. But according to God’s design – if you are a man – you are the pastor of your house and you’ve been saddled with the responsibility of feeding your house with the knowledge of God, and encourage them to walk in the paths of truth, righteousness, and obedience to God’s laws.
I understand that the world is divided into hundreds of nations, most of which have many different (probably thousands of) languages, cultures, and customs. For instance, the way American parents raise their children is definitely different from that of Asian parents or African parents, but we cannot know or please God by keeping our customs but only by keeping His word.
In the days of the Old Testament, God would often speak to His people through the priests or prophets. You, as a father, are the priest of your household! When fathers instruct their children in God’s ways, they are actually helping them set a strong foundation for their teenage and adulthood years. They are planting their feet on a strong ladder that will take them up to the zenith of their destiny, making it easier for them to fulfill their God-given potentials.
‘Hear, my son, and accept my sayings, and the years of your life will be many. I have instructed you in the way of [skillful and godly] wisdom; I have led you in upright paths. When you walk, your steps will not be impeded [for your path will be clear and open]; and when you run, you will not stumble.’ – Proverbs 4:10-12 AMP.
Many young people’s lives have been cut short because they had no instructions from [their] fathers. They were guided and misled by their peers and got involved in destructive habits, while their fathers looked on or were distracted with less important things. Are you a father or a son or daughter? Do you want peace for your future? Then I encourage you, start living and teaching the precepts of God!
Mothers – our natural-born teachers
‘The rod and reproof (godly instruction) give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.’ – Proverbs 29:15 AMP.
There is scarcely any treasure anywhere on earth as beautiful and precious as a godly mother. Like a sweet-smelling perfume, her godliness draws the admiration of her children who see her as their queen; and yes, you are a queen if you are a godly woman – a passionate follower of Christ. However, it takes a lot of dedication and sacrifice to be a queen, I hope you knew that?
A mother is her children’s first teacher; she sets a good foundation in their tender years for the father’s instruction to build upon in later years. With her sweet and gentle character, she helps her children to know the difference between right and wrong. She begins preparing her children’s destiny right from their infancy, even though it might take her decades to see the fruit of her consistent labor.
Such was the mother [and grandmother] of Timothy, Apostle Paul’s protégé and the leader of the Ephesian church. Paul himself bear witness to the blessedness of godly mothers and how they can influence their children’s destiny:
‘I remember your sincere and unqualified faith [the surrendering of your entire self to God in Christ with confident trust in His power, wisdom and goodness, a faith] which lived first in [the heart of] your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am confident that it is in you as well.’ – 2 Timothy 1:5 AMP.
A mother is her daughter’s lifetime teacher, comforter, and encourager. She teachers her the importance of sexual purity, the importance of making right choices in her relationships, and the necessity of developing a gentle and quiet spirit which is pleasing to God (See 1 Peter 3:2-6). It works easier when the children see living examples [in their parents] of what they are being taught.
Godly mothers have a gentle but firm influence, not only on their children, but also on other people as well. Again, we see this to be true in the life of an old saint and the Apostle Paul.
‘Greet Rufus, an eminent and choice man in the Lord, also his mother [who has been] a mother to me as well.’ – Romans 16:13 AMP.
The importance of honoring parents
‘Honor [esteem, value as precious] your father and your mother [and be respectful to them] – this is the first commandment with a promise – so that it may be well with you, and that you may have a long life on the earth.’ – Ephesians 6:2,3 AMP.
God commands us to honor our parents, rewarding them for their input in our lives and for the sacrifices they made for us. Respecting our parents is important if we are going to secure their blessings, however, honor is more than respect. Honor also means giving to them and taking care of their needs as they took care of ours in our growing years. It does not matter whether you are thirty or sixty years old – if you still have parents, it is your God-given duty to take care of your parents as much as lies in your power!
‘For they are a garland of grace on your head, and chains and ornaments [of gold] around your neck.’ – Proverbs 1:8 AMP.
Honoring them decorates us with dignity and draws God’s blessings because we keep His instructions. It gives us a sense of satisfaction and joy to see our parents well taken care of, as it also gives them a sense of their efforts and sacrifices being duly rewarded – causing them to be grateful to God for giving them such a wonderful child as you!
Parental blessings add a lot of value – both spiritual and moral – to our lives, and just as the fathers of faith blessed their descendants and made it possible for them to achieve greatness (See Genesis 49:25 Genesis 28:1-4), the same way we will do much better and greater things in our lifetime by the blessings of our fathers!