Failure is part of the experiences man encounter in life. At times, taking chances means failure. The only way to avoid failure is never to try, and that’s not a way to live.
We all might have felt disappointment, uncertainty and fear of the unknown at one point or the other in life. Yet if we allow this fear to rule us, we will never become what God would have us be. Playing it extremely safely and carefully all the times allows our lives to become like a barren desert that instead of a life of fulfillment of promises
THINGS TO CONSIDER REDUCING THE FEAR OF FAILURE
1. REMEMBER THAT EVERYBODY CAN FAIL
Failure isn’t a big deal. It’s universal. It’s a normal part of life. “We are all stumbled in many ways” (James 3:2). We’re just struggling. In reality, through failure, we learn the most about life.
2. REALIZE THAT FAILURE IS NOT FINAL
Failure is neither catastrophic nor final. Indeed, fear of failure is often worse than the experience itself. Proverbs 24:16 says, ” For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again.”.
So what if you fail because you disobeyed God and neglected His Word? Romans 8:28 states, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” The message here is simple: if you fail on the side of unrighteousness, repent immediately. Ask the Lord to forgive you. But if you fail on the side of justice and you make no mistake, stand up and keep going. Think about your mistake and move on and do not sleep around the fires of shame and disappointment.
If you learn through failure, you become an overcomer of failure. Falling is part of the path to success, and when you slip and fall, God will use that moment of weakness to adequately equip you for the journey ahead of you so that you can be strong enough accomplish your goal in life.
Sometimes the road to the greatest desire of God for your life will be fraught with disappointment. Don’t give up; it’s a part of life. Don’t make a big deal of failure that sabotages your future.
3. RECOGNIZE THE LESSONS FROM FAILURE
Failure educates us. We may have made more errors than successes. But we’re chalking it up as a lesson. We’re going to try it, and if it doesn’t work, we’re going to scrap it and try it again. At least, we fall on the side of justice. God delights in the heart that serves Him.
Failure, too, makes us less judgmental. If you have failed at one point in life, you tend to be more caring, attentive, compassionate, kind, understanding to others who see themselves as failure. Failure is going to limit your pride. We can benefit a great deal from failure.
4. REDEFINE FAILURE
Let’s redefine failure. You are not a failure not because you did not put a lot of effort into achieving your goals neither is it because it took long for you to achieve your goals.
” I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith” (2 Timothy 4:7).
God is not looking for people who want to be famous. He’s hunting for the faithful.
The way to conquer and resolve failure is to inspire a love for everything you’re doing. If you do what you do out of love, you never fail out, love never fails.
5. REPLACE YOUR FEAR WITH FAITH IN CHRIST
Have the strength to face every situation with the power that Christ gives to you (Philippians 4:13). The solution to overcoming the fear of failure is not a program — it’s a person! Jesus is going to provide us with power.
When we experience fear, we have to put our trust in God. We should set great goals and make sure that our motivation is love. Go for it, then! Failure is not when we stumble during our service to God in our Christian journey; it is when there is no intention to serve God any longer. When God sees a life that desires to please Him, He will glorify Himself in such life, turn everything around for good, and those failures will become blessings.
Let’s set our hearts on God, and watch our fear of failure fade and vanish.
MATURED BELIEVER ATTITUDES ABOUT FAILURE AND SUCCESS
1. Matured believers understand that a Christian can be successful due to God’s grace and forgiveness despite their encounter with failure in life. We may have to live with some of our failures or sins, yet God will continue to love us for Christ’s sake and He will keep using us for His purposes because of grace.
2. The matured believer seeks to use failure as a lesson for growth and change. Mature believers should act on two principles:
(a) They should understand and remember always that our failures are a reminder of the consequences of our decisions. We’re reaping what we sow, it is known as the law of harvesting. Failures remind us of what we might have done in time past, they might make us careful, but they shouldn’t be allowed to paralyze us.
(b) A matured believer should recognize that our failures show us what we should and should not do; they become lessons in areas where we have gone wrong and why. You know what they say, “The hindsight is 10/20.” It can help us bypass the same mistake twice if we learn from history.
3. When matured believers fail, they:
(a) Recognize their failures, and do not hide behind any lame excuses.
(b) Confess your sin to God when sin is involved in failure.
(c) Study and examine what has happened so that they can learn from their failure.
(d) Put it behind them and move on (1 John 1:9; Phil. 3:13).
Matured believers are assured of God’s forgiveness, and they put their failures behind us, trust and rest in God’s faithfulness. They refuse to use theirfailure as an excuse for morbid introspection, pessimism, self-pity, depression or any form of negativity
4. Mature believers grow through failure. They are going to know and act on certain truths:
(a) Based on grace, we are accepted in the Lord, not by our performance.
(b) We are human beings, and as a result, we are not perfect now, nor will we ever be perfect here on planet earth.
(c) God still has plans for our lives. He is not yet done with us, and we need align our lives with His plan.
WAYS TO RESPOND TO FAILURE
Knowing this would change the way we respond to our failures. It will take our entire Christian life to grow in this dependence and trust, but there are three immediate ways in which we can apply this in our time of weakness:
1. RECKON WITH JESUS AS YOU SEE YOUR SIN AND DOUBT.
God calls us to mourn our sins, but always to turn to Him in our mourning. Rather than seeing sin and weakness as doom, see them as opportunities to take hold of Christ’s strength and depend on Him. Jesus doesn’t call his followers to be discouraged by their sin, but to believe that He who has called them is able to wash away their sin and give them a bighter future irrespective of their awful past.
2. RECKON WITH JESUS AS YOU CONFESS YOUR SIN AND DOUBT.
Some hours before he went to the cross, his disciples’ failures were evident before him, yet he still went all the way to the cross of Calvary. He already knows our failure, and he has already taken away our guilt. The Scriptures say that we have confidence in appealing to his grace to confess freely and without fear of rejection. Don’t shy away from confession, but accept his offer of grace and pardon.
3. LOOK TO JESUS AS YOU FIGHT SIN AND DOUBT.
Jesus speaks to his disciples of his conquering power and the help of the Spirit. We can ask for his help, and we can trust that he is working on our behalf. Though our struggle against sin may seem endless and overwhelming, Jesus is not affected by our human frailty because he knows that his power is so much greater than our sin. He has overcome the condemnation of sin, and he has made use of the Spirit for us. He works for us and with us as we fight so that we are equipped to carry on as we call on him in battle.
WAYS TO OVERCOME FEARS AND FAILURES
1. ADMIT THEM: To admit that you have messed up or failed is a great start to overcome your failures. After all, if you can’t admit that you have failed, how can you overcome and grow from them? That’s why simply admitting failure is a great starting point. You don’t have to tell the entire world about it, or even a certain number of people. Simply writing it down and owning to it individually can help you.
2. LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURE: Whether it is a success or a failure, we can all learn from it. Where did you do wrong? How could you have done it differently and better? These are just two ways you can process what has happened and learn from your failures. Ask the Lord to reveal these answers to you.
3. GET CONNECTED WITH OTHERS: Your failures or struggles may be beyond your ability to cope with. That’s why it’s so important to be in contact with other spiritually-minded people. Christian gatherings and group of like-minded people are good places for you to connect with others and to be encouraged.
4. KEEP SEEKING GOD: Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” The scripture says in James 4:8 says, “Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.” Don’t let failures prevent you from seeking God and asking Him to guide you.
5. FAITH: To overcome self-condemnation, you have to believe that God is greater than your failure. Faith is the key to the victory of failure. The apostle John said, “When we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Observe the two words that describe the character of God: true and just. We must believe that God is faithful in His dealings with us.
Our human capacity may not be able to fathom the concept of forgiveness but by faith, you must believe that you are forgiven. This is the key to the entire process. Stop convicting yourself. You cannot change the past, but you can change the future. Others may not forget your mistakes, but God will forget them and pardon your excesses.
6. FINALLY, DON’T GIVE UP: We all have failures, but you don’t have to let your failure determine who you are. You don’t have to let failure prevent you from being the one God created you to be. Acknowledge where you have messed up, learn from them, and get in touch with others to help you grow from them, seek God, and let Him guide you. The earlier you move beyond your failures, the quicker you can overcome them and grow out of them.
There are a lot of causes of failure. Some are the result of specific acts of sin, but others are not. Some are the product of ignorance or circumstances beyond our control, such as a drop in the stock market or extreme weather conditions (drought, floods), which may cause a farmer to lose his sweat, as they say. Naturally, this type of failure, as severe and painful as it is, is not as serious as David’s spiritual failure. While David recovered from his sin and was still used by God afterward, there were life-long consequences in his life and others’ lives.
Whether it is caused by sin or by the several things that are beyond human control, all failure teaches us the great truth of how desperately we need God and His grace and mercy in our lives. Occasionally our failures are mirrors of reproof, but they can always become tools for growth and deeper levels of trust and commitment to God if we respond to them as such instead of rebelling and become hardened by difficulty. God is sufficient for us when we are faced with any form of failure. We may not be the cause of some failures, but they serve as a reminder that we must live with eternal priorities in mind. Other failures are the direct result of our own sinful choices.
God has made more than sufficient provision for us in Christ through His work of reconciliation on the cross, which is the only basis of our relationship and forgiveness with God and our means of a meaningful and productive life with Him.