HOW TO FIND A WIFE AS A CHRISTIAN
The Lord Jesus Christ said it is wrong to cast peals before swim. “Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you” Matthew 7: 6. To a father, his daughter is a pearl; a precious gem of inestimable value. He would never wants to give her to a man that is unserious. For the value he places on her, he will ensure that the man who wants to marry her is responsible, loves God, and also ready to value her as a wife. That being said, you must understand that the marriage institution is sacred; it is honorable. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge” Hebrews 13: 4. The marriage institution was instituted by God and not man, church or the state. So before you decide to marry, you must make up your mind to hold your marriage sacred. It is not what you jump in today and jump out from tomorrow. Marriage is for the matured; for men and not for boys.
The Bible says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD” Proverbs 18: 22. So when you desire to marry, you did not desire something wrong. In fact what you desire is good and what will bring you God’s favor. However, there are certain qualities you a woman must possess for you to desire her for a wife otherwise, you would be marrying the wrong person.
Before you decide to approach any sister for marriage, you must fervently pray for God’s guidance. In the place of prayer, the Spirit of God will direct you to take the right steps, or direct you to the right sister to marry. Through prayers, you would be able to see through the surface into the inner qualities you are to see in the lady you want to marry.
As a Christian man, it is very wrong for you to marry a non Christian woman. “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership can righteousness have with wickedness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?” How you a Christian, born of God condensed to marry a lady that does not have a relationship with God? You must marry a born again, Holy Spirit filled woman.
The best approach is to talk to your pastor about it and he or the marriage council in your local church will direct you alright. If possible marry a sister you know in your local church. A sister you share the same beliefs and convictions with. When you discuss with your pastor, the Lord will inspire him to guide you correctly.
Do not overlook the medical compatibility of the sister you want to marry. Once you are certain of the sister, check if you two are compatible. If there are medical reasons you cannot be together, it is better to go your separate ways than enter into a marriage the two of you will not enjoy.