HOW TO CONTROL YOUR SEX DRIVE AS A CHRISTIAN
Understand that sex drive or desire is not a sin. It was created by God to help married couple enjoy sex decently. It is the same thing with sex. God created sex for properly married man and his wife. So the desire towards a woman from a man or even from a woman to a man is natural and not a sin. However, it is very important you do not yield your sexual drive or yourself to sin; become amorous because you refuse to control your drive. The Word of God says, “Do not let any part of your body become an instrument of evil to serve sin. Instead, give yourselves completely to God, for you were dead, but now you have new life. So use your whole body as an instrument to do what is right for the glory of God” Romans 6: 13.
Your sexual drives are subject to you and not you being controlled by them. “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls” Proverbs 25: 28. If you refuse to exercise self-control over your sex drive you will be exposed to sinful lust and temptation to sin. “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it” 1 Corinthians 10: 13. Every human being on earth is blessed with sex drive as well as the ability or self discipline to control it. What you need to do if you are having challenges controlling yourself is to pray fervently to God and He will graciously help you.
A lot of people believe when they are married they would be able to control their sex drive. That is half-truth. The self control you did not develop while you were single will not suddenly jump on you when you are married. As a Christian, you must use the Word of God to discipline yourself. “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can make your stand against the devil’s schemes” Ephesians 6: 11. As a single you will experience strong sexual urges to the point you will almost conclude you are committing sin, but all that is natural. It simply means you are functioning properly. The challenge to be tempted will surely come but you resist at all times. “So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you” James 4: 9.One sure way you can control your sex drive to the glory of God is to avoid being in the companies of the wrong people. “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character” 1 Corinthians 15: 33. If the people you hang out with are amoral, you will definitely end up behaving like them. You must also watch the book and magazine you read; the movies you watch and the kind of music you listen to. If they are obscene, they will influence you.