Before I answer that question, let us understand what “make out” really means. Make out is a term of American origin that dates back to at least 1949 and refers to kissing. Kissing is when your lips touch and you kiss. Decisive is when you not only kissing but make it a moment when you both touch and kiss. You have given your partner permission to touch you in a way that you would not normally touch daily. It is when you are lost in feelings and very at peace. Sometimes people become semi-aggressive and sometimes others keep it calm, but making out is more than just a kiss. Making out should be a joyful experience and when done right it’s wonderful. Now we understand what it means to “make out “let now go back to our question.
Is it okay as a Christian to make out?
“Making out” is not mentioned in the Bible. Scripture does not explicitly say that kissing is a sin, but there are principles we need to learn from. Kissing is a great temptation that most Christian especially couples can’t handle. Once you start kissing, all you can do is move forward and go deeper. It’s a big temptation, so it’s a good thing for Christians to choose not to kiss (make out) especially before marriage.
The less you do now and the more you save for marriage, the greater the blessing in marriage. Your sexual relationship in marriage will be more divine, intimate, special, and unique. Some Christians kiss easily before marriage, which isn’t sinful, but let’s not start inventing our definition of light kissing. It’s not a French kiss. The smallest kiss can lead to something even bigger. (Galatians 5:16 so I say: Walk through the Spirit, and you will not satisfy the desires of the flesh.). (1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it).
What thus bible says about kissing?
The few times the Bible mentions kissing says that intimacy can be shared in different situations (Song 1: 2, Song 8: 1, Rom 16:16). There are different types of kisses. In Greek culture of the first century and earlier, it was common for brothers and good friends to greet each other with a Platonic kiss (this was very short and quick). There are also family kisses like a mother kissing a child a good night, others are emotional (but without sexuality) like a husband kissing his wife on the cheek, and still, others are romantic/erotic and are in the context of a very intimate and sexual relationship that is only allowed in marriage…
The real danger of “make out”
Simply put, “make out” is not an independent thing, but a prelude to something else, sex. There are many strong emotions, biological drives, and hormones that are stimulated when you touch and kiss closely. All this obscures your judgment, your rational thinking, and ignites a magnetic force that attracts you to sex. To this end, an agreement exists to induce people to have sex (which is good for married couples or they may never know how to get started).
Making out is like a freeway on a ramp, while you’re there you’re not “technically” on the freeway, but it only has one function to bring you enough speed for the highway. And just as it is difficult to avoid the highway when you are on the ramp, it is also difficult to avoid sex when you are making out.
Imagine a slippery water slide that leads to a deep swimming pool. Now imagine that you can’t swim, so falling into the pool is dangerous and you are prohibited from going to the pool. But sliding off a slide doesn’t count as in the pool, does it? Technically speaking, slipping is not in the pool. But let’s face it, is it wise to slide down and think you’re not going to the pool? “you will catch on and stop yourself ” or something. In the end, you play with a slide that has the sole purpose of taking you where you can’t go. Here’s what it looks like.
The problem with “make out”
If you kiss someone other than your spouse for a long period, this is a form of foreplay. It should not be done and does not honor the Lord. Most of the time, people joke around in an intimate setting and behind closed doors.
This is compromising and you fall and you will fall even more. They want each other and stumble on each other. Your motives are not pure. Your heart is not pure. Nobody’s heart would be pure. Our hearts would like more than we feel and we would satisfy our sinful desires by moving forward with the process. When I talk about falling, it doesn’t have to be sex. Autumn happens long before sex. Sexual immorality is so powerful that we have no way of resisting temptation. We are told one thing when it comes to sexual immorality. To run! To run! Don’t put yourself in a position to sin. Never be alone for a long time in a closed environment with the opposite sex. You will fall! (1 Corinthians 6:18 Shun immorality. Every other sin which a man commits is outside the body; but the immoral man sins against his own body). (Ephesians 5: 3 But fornication and all impurity or covetousness must not even be named among you, as is fitting among saints.) the Bible also makes us to understand in (Matthew 5: 27-28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery; But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart). How much more to make out?
What about in the case of a couple that is engaged and committed to staying chaste before marriage? Many good Christian men, pastors, and teachers have slightly different ideas on this. The bottom line is this, some (i.e. Focus on the Family do think it’s ok for a couple to exchange a kiss that is emotional/familial, but not laced with sexuality and eroticism. Yet the ultimate conclusion is that “making out” is a beautiful thing for married couples, yet a dangerous thing for those who are not there yet.
Never compromise as a Christian
First, make sure you are having an affair with another Christian. Never enter into a relationship with an unbeliever.
Second, if the person you meet is pressuring you to do more and understand, you shouldn’t be related to them. If they cannot honor the Lord and if they cannot respect you, you must separate. Be with someone who leads you to the Lord so as not to sin. This can knock you down in the end. God will send a divine person on your way. (1 Corinthians 5:11 But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister[a] but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people).
Do everything for the glory of God.
In no case can anyone convince me that he/she is making out to glorify God. How does that honor God? Can we honestly say that there are no impure motives in our hearts? Of course not. How does it reflect your love for others by using their body for your pleasure? How is it a divine example for other believers? Put your heart in glorifying God and you will then be able to see what is right. (1 Corinthians 10:31 So if you eat or drink or whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God). Also (Luke 10:27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’ and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself).
As a Christian not is not okay to “make out” before marriage because it always result in sin. However, “making out” is a pleasant thing for married couples, but a dangerous thing for those who are not yet there.